If you have been duped in a timeshare, you may start to blame yourself for falling into the timeshare trap. That’s the last thing you should do. Move forward and seek help with Wesley Financial Group. Lawsuit and more, our leader Chuck McDowell remained steadfast when he was faced with a lawsuit from Wyndham. As our President & CEO, he remains an example to everyone at Wesley Financial Group. Lawsuit didn’t throw him or scare him away from helping others in the timeshare cancellation industry. If you have been taken advantage of by a timeshare company, reach out to us. You’re not to blame for falling into the timeshare trap. In an article written by Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, she discusses three ways to pick yourself up after mistakes. These pearls of wisdom may help you eradicate any remaining guilt you may have about falling for timeshare fraud.

Pick Yourself Back Up

Dr. Whitnbourne begins, “You can tell yourself all you want that even the best of us makes a mistake now and then, but when you’re the one who has made the mistake, it can be difficult to believe. Consider, for example, the fact that many Oscar-winning movies contain bloopers. In fact, the IMDB website regularly includes a list of “goofs” in acclaimed movies. Professional athletes often miss easy shots or kicks, newspaper headlines contain typos, and models trip on the runway. So why should you be perfect? In a recent comprehensive review of the literature on “failure, error, or mistakes,” University of Leeds psychologist Judith Johnson and colleagues (2017) try to understand why some people are able to easily brush off their errors, while others become preoccupied with them. From their work, you can understand how to transform yourself into one of the resilient.” (Whitbourne, 2017). If you can’t seem to let of the fact that you were duped in a timeshare, then consider some of what Dr. Whitbourne suggests from the research conducted by Judith Johnson from the University of Leeds.

Dr. Whitbourne explains the basis for the research.“The basic framework underlying the Johnson et al. review is the Bi-dimensional Framework for investigating resilience (BDF), which proposes that risk and resilience are two separate dimensions. You can have a high-risk experience of making a mistake, such as using the wrong name for someone who you’re supposed to know, but if you’re high in the resilience dimension, you won’t let that social gaffe get to you. Risks can befall anyone, then, but they will only have a negative outcome (making you anxious or depressed) if you’re low on that resilience factor. The Leeds research team went on, in their review of relevant studies, to examine whether, and how much, psychological factors could confer resilience in people who fail or make mistakes.”(Whitbourne, 2017). Here, we can tell that this is more than mere advice, but backed by studies done by psychologist Judith Johnson. Let’s take a look at the research conducted.

The Research

Dr. Whitbourne continues, “After meticulously distilling over 8,300 possible studies down into 38 papers with 46 different studies… As it turns out, resilience could be boiled down into three very clear components: high self-esteem, a tendency to attribute success to one’s personal qualities and failure to outside circumstances, and lower levels of perfectionism. Contrary to what you might expect, feelings of self-worth regarding academic ability did not predict resilience, nor did the personality trait of being able to suppress emotions.” (Whitbourne, 2017). We hear a lot about the troubles are clients go through at Wesley Financial Group. Lawsuit and more, our leader Chuck McDowell stood up to those who were trying to keep him down. Today, he is an example to everyone in our company. We stick up for those who feel downtrodden. We want our clients to stay resilient within, while we do the fighting for them. What Dr. Whitbourne suggests in her article may help our clients who feel bad about falling for timeshare fraud get rid of that unnecessary and unfounded guilt.

Getting Resilient

Wesley Financial Group building resilienceNext, Dr. Whitbourne analyzes what the study found. She states, “Let’s take apart these three components of resilience one by one. High self-esteem means that you regard yourself in a positive manner, not overly boastful or grandiose, but pleased with who you are in an overall sense. Examples of self-esteem questions from one frequently used scale include: “On the whole, I am satisfied with myself,” “I am able to do things about as well as other people,” and “I feel I have a number of good qualities.”” (Whitbourne, 2017). Sometimes our clients let timeshare fraud get the best of them emotionally. We hope that by doing what we do, we can remind them that they aren’t to blame for their timeshare problems.

The next component focuses on the way people think about mistakes. “Turning next to the attribution dimension, people who seem resistant to failure are able to dismiss experiences when they do come up short in a balanced, if not slightly self-serving, manner. The optimistic explanatory style regards mistakes as due to external, unstable, and specific factors.” (Whitbourne, 2017). We hope that our clients see that the problems they have due to being duped in a timeshare are entirely due to external factors. If you are the victim of timeshare fraud, you are not the reason for your timeshare problems. You were deceived.

Lastly, Dr. Whitbourne discusses those who are perfectionists. “Finally, in the perfectionism area, it is easy to see that people striving to live a mistake-proof life will condemn themselves to more than occasional misery. Imagine what it was like for perfectionistic people in some of Johnson et al’s studies to be unable to solve what they believed to be solvable anagrams. Making matters worse, I would imagine that the more they tormented themselves with harsh self-judgments, the more difficult it became for them to think about the task, period.” (Whitbourne, 2017). Here, we see that if you are a perfectionist, falling for timeshare fraud may take a greater toll on you. No matter what type of disposition you possess, sometimes it can be hard to realize that there was nothing that you could do to avoid being taken advantage of by a timeshare company.

Moving On

moving on with Wesley Financial GroupWe won’t back down from helping our clients at Wesley Financial Group. Lawsuit or otherwise, didn’t stop our President & CEO Chuck McDowell from fighting for those who have been duped in a timeshare. If you are the victim of timeshare fraud, you must take it easy on yourself. You’re not to blame. Dr. Whitbourne continues, “With these insights, you can see how to apply the BDF model as a preventative remedy to mistakes in your own life. Further, since we can never prevent failure experiences in real life, this review’s findings have important implications. From a therapeutic standpoint, as they note, most interventions based on building resilience aim to prevent the emotional distress that can result from failure, and were supported not by evidence, but instead on “clinical knowledge and factors which predict symptoms over time” (p. 38). In other words, current cognitively based therapies do try to build resilience in clients ranging from children to healthcare staff, who can expect to encounter failure in school or work. However, until this testing of the BDF model, with its specific focus on empirically based methods, knowledge of how to build resistance to failure was restricted to observations from clinical lore.” (Whitbourne, 2017). We’ve seen and heard a lot at Wesley Financial Group. Lawsuit and more, our leader Chuck McDowell has stood up against giants in the timeshare industry. Today, he is the leader of a successful timeshare cancellation company. As a resilient person, he remains a positive example in our company. We hope that you can remain resilient in your fight against timeshare fraud with us at your side.

Wesley Financial Group: Lawsuit or Otherwise, Keeping Moving Forward

Dr. Whitbourne ends her article with, “The key to getting over your mistakes, then, is to build your inner reserves well before you’re in a failure situation. Knowing that failure will happen, no matter how hard you try to prevent it, will give you a better perspective on understanding your mistakes without letting them devastate you. A mistake can be unpleasant, embarrassing, and even costly, but the resilience you develop to prepare for your inevitable errors will allow you to draw even more fulfillment from the times you succeed.” (Whitbourne, 2017). Our leader Chuck McDowell faced attacked when he was threatened with legal action. With Wesley Financial Group, lawsuit or otherwise, our leader remained devoted to helping people through timeshare fraud. Mistakes happen, and there’s no reason to beat yourself over falling for timeshare fraud. Consider Dr. Whitbourne’s suggestions if you are having difficulty getting over the betrayal by a timeshare company. Remember, you’re not to blame if you fell into the timeshare trap. If you haven’t already, reach out to us at Wesley Financial Group so that we can help you cancel your timeshare.

Whitbourne,Ph.D., Susan Krauss. (March 18, 2017). Mistakes Don’t Have to Be Setbacks: 3 Ways to Be Resilient. www.psychologytoday.com, https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201703/mistakes-dont-have-be-setbacks-3-ways-be-resilient